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Strange Miracle

At the end of my working day yesterday, I got a sweet e-mail from the Sunday night dinner fellow. Here is my favorite excerpt:

"Just wanted to say that I had a really good time (despite the Parizade food).  They changed the menu and took away the good veggie pasta!  Regardless, everything else was great...you are a brilliant, witty conversationalist, and it is great that you can take my jokes and barbs (that's a sign that I am getting comfortable, so I hope you aren't offended).  I also think you have pretty eyes (it was fun to look into them) and a great smile."

The message went on to say that he wanted to get together again soon either to see a play or go to a movie. After I read this, I was smiling widely and jumped up and down.  This sounds strange, but I feel relieved at what he likes about me because those are qualities I like in myself and it is good on his part to pick up on that quickly. I don't mean to sound arrogant.

Before going on Sunday's date, I had previously scheduled another date for last night. I was feeling a bit guilty as I was getting ready for that date. However, I shook it off and just told myself that I would have fun and be civil. I go to the Greek restaurant to meet Monday dinner date. He is also incredibly handsome and nice. We have good conversation and he has very intense eye contact. I also feel comfortable and attractive around him. On the way to my car, he asks if he can see me again and I agree. Then we are saying goodnight and smooch.  It is fun and feels natural.  As I am driving away, I suddenly remember that I also had a great date the night before.

Suddenly, I freak out and realize that I am in a bit of a predicament. I call Ben to get some advise and tell him that this is the first time where I like two people at the same time and they both seem to like him. He recommends the Sunday night fellow, but I still have some misgivings. We could not really get into it because he had company.  I came home and chatted with Beth about it who assured me that as long as I was open with all parties involved it was okay and to remember that there has just been one in person encounter.  In the midst of this craziness, I have to say that it does feel miraculous to have attractive men be attracted to me.

 

Posted on Tuesday, October 26, 2004 at 07:13AM by Registered Commenter[beastmomma] | Comments9 Comments

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Kickass, Beastmomma! I wouldn't worry about liking the both of them. You've only had one date with each, right? As you see more of both them, chances are it will become quite obvious who you are more attracted to. I wouldn't make a decision so soon. Be honest if they ask if you are seeing other people,but I wouldn't go into details. Anyway, congrats on the successful dates! I am not surprised that either of these guys like you. They would be fools not to.

I got up this morning and went to the gym!!! Did you go to class? What time are you planning for tomorrow? I'd like to be up at 5:40, so let me know yer plans.
October 26, 2004 | Unregistered Commenterrobogrrl
YES! Date them both! There is no reason why you shouldn't!

ENJOY!
October 26, 2004 | Unregistered CommenterJoan
I agree. Don't count your chickens before they hatch!!
October 26, 2004 | Unregistered CommenterChristine
i am remembering one of your past datees who you were talking to a lot on the phone, and he was dating 2 (you and another) and... what i'm getting at is, yes, be open with them, but not too much so. i think with this other guy, he went too much into detail about how he was getting along with the other woman (not you) and that made you nervous, worried, jealous. not necessary.

try to not overanalyze. like everyone's telling you - you've only had one date with each. and regina's right - after more time, it will be obvious whom or what you want.

have fun! yeah! lucky you!!! ^_^
October 26, 2004 | Unregistered Commentercrissy
YAAAHHHOOOOO!

Go for them both! You don't have to choose and you should relish the delicious fun of being pursued by 2 men at once!
October 26, 2004 | Unregistered CommenterSandi
Crissy - I was thinking about that other guy that went into too much detail as well. She should say she is "seeing other people" or "dating" or whatever, but I would just leave it that. I wouldn't even mention it is just one other person. In fact, that is worse. That is what happened to JC. That just creates competition and jealousy and other bad things. No need to be like "well, I like someone else too."

Where have you been today beastmomma? Did you fall asleep after pilates? :)
October 26, 2004 | Unregistered Commenterrobogrrl
Go, beastmomma. Do these guys have names other than Sunday night boy and Monday night boy? handsome boy 1 and handsome boy 2? Too confusing
October 26, 2004 | Unregistered CommenterErinB
how about *sunday* & *monday*?

one thing beastmomma, i like that you didn't kiss *sunday*.
October 26, 2004 | Unregistered Commentercrissy
I have been in meetings off site all day and just returned from canvassing for Kerry after work. Thanks for the good comments. I like the advise about keeping it vague and not creating jealousy and insecurity. I am also on board with the *sunday* and *monday* nicknames. I also have to confess that I did kiss *sunday* too.
October 26, 2004 | Unregistered Commenterbeastmomma

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