too many relatives
As previously mentioned, I am a big birthday person. My parents have a large extended family and these relatives are not my favorite people. I wind up feeling bad about myself and wanting to change my name to something like bessie smith. I decided to have a birthday party in MD at my parents new home. (I had a lot of anger around the purchase of their new property) I called my mom to confirm the date and time, all she did was tell me how I should invite various relatives. I want it to be fun! I am already treading in nerd territory by inviting various teachers, but STILL!!!! Also, I was so annoyed that my mom kept mentioning couples like so and so and her husband, such and such and his girlfriend." It's like she is prepping me to board Noah's arc and reminding me that only losers travel alone. Hello, mom find a better way to relate.
How about you, how do you handle strange family dynamics?
[beastmomma]
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Either way, why should YOU invite relatives to YOUR party? Tell your parents to have their own damn party if they want to invite people they want. You know? And I think it's unfair that your parents are always pushing you to date. I mean, you DO date, but you date guys who aren't Indian and then you can't tell them you're dating because it would upset them. Does that seem fair? Not really.
well, one thing i would say about your bday party dilemma, is that by having it at your parents house, that invites your mom to suggest "guest" possibilities... since it's her territory and all.
maybe you should plan on having the party elsewhere?
or have 2 parties... a family "nice" party, and a friend "fun" party.
strange family dynamics cannot be avoided. sometimes you have to look them in the face, and deal with it (pleasantly smile and concentrate on your breathing). not going home can only last for so long.