Beastmomma

hey jaspreet, taking a *short* break from application HELL!!! i've GOT to push myself to finish these!!! 1've got to!

but back to you now, i'm sorry you're feeling pressured by your parents and all that. i don't get *that* sort of pressure anymore since i AM married, but i get intense pressure from them to move back to boston, where they live.

what i want to address is the "we are your allies and best friends" issue. sorry to be crude, but that's bullshit. my mom has said stuff like that too, and it really fucks with your mind... the big line that swam through my head for the majority of my life has been "you friends will not always be there for you, but your family will." hmmm...

when i was younger i believed this, but as i grow older, i realize this may not be true... i don't think it should be true.
first of all, they're going to die.
secondly, they don't have all the answers.

okay, i'm not sure if that made any sense, and i've got to get back to my apps now.

the marriage pressure from the parents is one thing you don't need to get into. unless you WANT to be married.

sorry, i think my comment became slightly incoherent in the end... i will write again...

WORD! I've never received any pressure to get married. I think that would just mess with my life more than necessary. Your parents are not your best friends and in this they are not your allies. If they want you to marry someone you don't like, well, that's not what allies do. Allies don't make people do what they don't want to do. They help people achieve what they want. Your parents are like the US and you are like some small country to them. They just want to impose all of their beliefs on you without giving you true freedom, then they call it "friendship." WEAK. wait, now i'm just as incoherent as Crissy. Wait.. more so!

parents know "what's best for you" when you're younger.
but less and less as you get older.
be true to yourself.

That last statement Crissy wrote is very wise. (Hi Crissy, I'm Sonja. We met once, right? Not sure if you are the person I'm remembering...)

It's a healthy "departure" though I think, because it would be hard to become an adult individual and feel good about starting your own life if that break didn't happen to some degree with your parents. You'd be homesick and calling your parents about every decision and it would stunt your growth.

Jaspreet: It's hard because they're your parents, but they aren't always right, and on the marriage issue I'm afraid they are very wrong. I wish you strength and peace of mind dealing with this.

sonja! i believe we sang a very mama's and papa's sounding duet together?! ^_^

jaspreet - i just updated frogwosh, but don't have your email address - i send out an update email everytime i update. just wanted to let you know.

Crissy: I thought that was you! Hello again! You made that awesomely weird cat-growling sound on one of those songs too. That was a fun day, and I think we sounded pretty good together. I was thinking that was you all along, but wasn't quite sure. I checked out your web-site but didn't see a picture of you, so I was still not quite sure. Well, good communicating with you. :) I liked your advice to Jaspreet.

I had forgotten that Crissy and Sonja had met each other already while singing about Chris... Crazy world.

I have been home today because we had a snow day and I got off from work, so I had not checked my site. Thanks for the comments. I agree that my parents are not right, but I just feel like I am getting messed up in the head. I just don't even know how I am going to be able to date anyone ever again. it is a strange predicament. I am going to write more in my next journal entry.
Crissy: I will check out your website as soon as I am finished here.

Why won't you be able to date anyone again? You live in NC, far away from your parents. How would they stop you from dating? Don't let that get in your way! Don't deny all those boys out there from the glory of Jaspreet!